Stop your kid from being naughty

Through my research for children behavior, many articles written on how to stop the kids from having bad behavior. Some of the problem caused their behavior change is due to they are lack of caring from their parent most of the time.

Some parent will treat the kids like adult. Once the kids being naughty, the parent will use force to against force. This may work for once but cannot work permanently. The children is learning during their childhood, they can differentiate right and wrong. If they are misbehave, do consult them before punishing them, so that they understand why they are being punished for a reason.

When teens take wrong turn – part 2

It doesn’t mean that they won’t take drugs or drink alcohol; just that they won’t do it to appear cool. Children need to know that it is okay to say no and they first learn this at home.

Don’t put pressure on them to perform academically. Yes, you want them to try their best but accept that their best may not put them at the top of the class. Often, it is children who do not feel loved for themselves who go looking for other things like drugs to escape from feeling depressed or unloved.

Try talking to your children about drugs and alcohol but not in a “don’t you dare try these things” way. Talk about the reasons why people try them and the problems that they can cause. Ask them if they have ever been attempted to drink or try drugs.

They may tell you that they have and if they do, don’t overreact but thank them for being honest with you.

If your older teenager really wants to try alcohol, you may want to consider letting him do so under your roof. I am not saying that you should buy him a six-pack. But perhaps let him have a glass of beer or wine with a meal. He probably won’t like it and as it is no longer a forbidden fruit, he is less likely to be tempted by his peers.

When teens take wrong turn - Part 1

Parents need to walk a fine line when dealing with their children who are on drugs or alcohol.

With statistic showing that roughly one in three teenagers are turning to alcohol or drugs, it’s fair to say that many parents are worried that their teen may be on drugs or drinking alcohol. How can you protect your family?

First, never assume that it won’t happen to your child. Contrary to the image that TV provides, drugs and alcohol abuse are not restricted to children who grow up in unhappy, broken homes or have single mothers. Any teenager may be affected, so you cannot afford to be complacent.

When dealing with teenagers, it can sometimes seem like you are walking on a tightrope. On one hand, you are the adult and therefore, need to be the disciplinarian while, on the other hand, you need to show your child respect and trust.

You have to be reasonable and non-judgmental which is difficult to do especially when dealing with something as scary as drug or alcohol abuse.

Your children are going to come under social pressure to indulge in such activities. They need your help and understanding to learn how to best deal with these situations. You need to be calm and controlled as losing your temper will not prevent your child from taking drugs.

So how can parents handle the drink and drugs issue? Try to bring up your children to be self-confident and independent. If they believe in themselves, they are less likely to be influenced by their peers.

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The negative habit of children

The negative habit of children

The bad & Ugly

People think parents tend to over-react when it comes to their child’s bad habits. This is because we know children will eventually outgrow those habits. However, they warn that there are signs when parents should be worried. Below are some of the great tips that parents should be on the look out for:

Bad Habit 1: Nail Biting

Some studies estimate that 30 percent to 60 percent of children between the ages of five and ten chew on one or more nails, as do about 20 percent of adolescents.

You should get worried when: Your child has ingrown, infected nails or recurrent bleeding.

Bad Habit 2: Thumb Sucking

Most thumb suckers are younger children. In fact, anywhere from a quarter to half of two to four year olds suck their thumbs.

You should get worried when: You child develops dental problems, thumb or finger infections.

Bad Habit 3: Nose Picking

Nose picking appears to be a habit that, although it usually begins in childhood, may actually linger into adulthood. A study of adults found that 91 percent picked their noses on a regular basis!

You should get worried when: Your child has frequent nosebleeds

Bad Habit 4: Hair Twirling

If your child is a hair twirler, the odds are that it’s your daughter but the good news is that most hair twirlers and pullers stop as they get older.

You should get worried when: There’s a noticeable amount of hair loss because your child might have a serious psychological condition called trichotillomania (serious hair pulling)

Bad Habit 5: Tics

Tics are behaviours such as repeated twitches or movements and it can involve any part of the body. A facial tic such as blinking the eyes is a common problem.

You should get worried when: The tic occurs longer than a year or when your child cannot suppress it because it may be a sign of a more serious problem than just a habit.

Bad Habit 6: Breath Holding

This is by far the most worrisome bad habit for parents because they fear the child could get hurt. However, experts reassure parents that this bad habit is actually more alarming to parents than dangerous for the child.

You should get worried when: Your child passed out or have a brief seizure.

How do I help my child break the bad habit?

• First, try ignoring the annoying behaviour because your child will outgrow the habit with time. Giving it a lot of attention may encourage the behaviour.
• Praise your child for good behaviour; “I see that you are not biting your nails, great job!” You can also offer rewards such as allowing your daughter to use nail polish when their nails grow.
• Try to understand why they are doing it. Find out if they are stressed out or worried about something. Some do it to gain your attention.
• Never ridicule, punish or criticize your child because that’s not helping and would actually make things worse.
• Let them know you are there to help and you must make them understand why you want them to kick the habit. Children as young as three could understand your reasoning.
• Be consistent in rewarding good behaviour. If you notice the bad habits but fail to notice good ones, it will disappear through time.
• Redirect your child to a better solution – if your child picks his nose because it’s irritated, teach him to clean it with a tissue.
• Be aware of your own behaviour! If you expect them to quit, you’ll have to do it too because guess who they learn it from?